Mama Resolutions for 2006
It's that time again to jot down some resolutions for the upcoming year. As always, a new year brings hope and resolutions that oftentimes has the same flavor as before, but let me give it a shot. Here are my top five parenting resolutions for the upcoming year.
1. Believe in my mama-ing abilities. Two kids later, and I still stress about the tiny decisions I make as a mama. Like wondering if the nose wipe is worth the cry of anguish from my infant or if it will mar him for life. This year will be different, I will trust my instincts knowing that I'm doing my darnedest as a mom. I'll try not to take it personally and realize that neither my baby's cries nor my nearly 3-year-old's outlandish behavior is not always a direct reflection on my mama-ing skills.
2. Mama as role model. While I don't curse like a sailor, I do need to be aware that my sons pick up both my and my husband's good and bad habits. I'm kicking my soda addiction, exercising more regularly, and using the TV less often as a babysitter.
3. Quality time with my sons. I recently saw a bumper sticker that read something to the effect that "All mothers are working mothers" and how true it is. I'm a working mother in the sense that I work outside of the home. I still struggle with trying to make the most of my time with my kids when I'm not working. This year I will try to focus on reminding myself that the time I spend with my sons should be quality due to the fact that the quantity of free time is in short supply. When my older son tells me "no more check email mama" I will have to tear myself away from the computer, turn of the DVD player and play trains with him.
4. Recognize that there was life before kids. Date night will be a recurring scheduled event for my husband and I. Date nights have been to few for us in past year, and we realize that the strength of our relationship is the foundation for our family. If we are fulfilled in our relationship with each other, we can better manage the roller coaster ride of parenting.
5. Creating more community for mamas. It's so easy to become recluse as a mama. I go through periods where I feel like I'm just trying to get by, barely managing the kids and work, and not enjoying life as a mother. When somehow I manage to emerge from the motherhood doldrums, I realize that I miss my friends. As soon as I re-engage myself into the community of other mamas, I feel reinvigorated. In the new year, I hope to do my part in creating more community for mamas in Portland.
Share, share! What are some of your resolutions for this upcoming year? It's always fun to hear what other mamas are up to.