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Hi, I feel awful asking what may seem like a stupid question, but here it is. I would like to post a query and can 't seem to locate where I can initiate a query. I know how to post a comment replying to another person's question , but just can't seem to start my own new topic. Please advise-- thanks!

FAMILY LAW ATTORNEY recommendations needed---My husband and I have one child and have been struggling for a long time. He came from an abusive home and has been abusive in the past. He recently agreed to some therapy and it seemed to help, but now he is reverting back to his old ways. I have had several people offer us a safe haven in case things get really bad. Things may get better, but I don't want to be stupid and know I need to have plan B in place. Are there any good attorney recommendations that are familiar with abusive situations and also abusive in-laws? His parents fought non-stop over their children and I don't want to have this happen to us. I also know I need to have someone strong on my side if it comes to that because I haven't been good at defending myself. Thanks for any guidance.

Carla, email me at thatfriedmangirl@yahoo.com so I can give you a few names. I practice on the other side of the river (in SW WA) but I know several very good and very sensitive family law attorneys in Portland.

Breast feeding advice needed!!

My son and I have had a very easy going, flexible and fulfilling breast feeding relationship. He is able to move flawlessly betwen a bottle and nursing, and shows a preference for nursing. However, very recently he has taken to biting me, and manipulating my nipple and breast by pulling or pushing me very hard. What was once relaxing, enjoyable bonding time, now has me seized with anxiety and dread. When I try to unlatch him he makes it very clear that he wants to nurse as he screams and cries very loudly. At this point, I am thinking that he is both teething (which explains the biting and isn't happenig too often and suprisingly is the lesser issue), and he is trying to facilitate my breast milk to flow like his Medela bottle; fast and heavy. I am at the end of my teather and am flirting with breast pumping only and feeding him by bottle. I know that this would be heart breaking for me but I am quickly becoming resentful and irritated while breast feeding. Does anyone have any input, ideas, advice and/or a similar situation to share?

Sil


silvey, Check out this post from 2006 and its several comments on biting while nursing: http://urbanmamas.typepad.com//urbanmamas/2006/02/hes_biting_me.html. Also, if you search the nursing and weaning category there's loads of relate dinfo there. I can't tell from your comment howe old he is, but I recall a distinct phase at around 6 months with my 1st where he would pull off, holler as if he was all done, then drink some more. we moves through it but it was a littel disconcerting and a mixed message from him, to say the least! Good luck! Also, you can alwasy call the Nursing Mothers Counsel of Oregon which runs a hotline.

My nine month old son and I have had a very easy going, flexible and fulfilling breast feeding relationship. He is able to move flawlessly betwen a bottle and nursing, and shows a preference for nursing. However, very recently he has taken to biting me, and manipulating my nipple and breast by pulling or pushing me very hard. What was once relaxing, enjoyable bonding time, now has me seized with anxiety and dread. When I try to unlatch him he makes it very clear that he wants to nurse as he screams and cries very loudly. At this point, I am thinking that he is both teething (which explains the biting and isn't happenig too often and suprisingly is the lesser issue), and he is trying to facilitate my breast milk to flow like his Medela bottle; fast and heavy. I am at the end of my teather and am flirting with breast pumping only and feeding him by bottle. I know that this would be heart breaking for me but I am quickly becoming resentful and irritated while breast feeding. Does anyone have any input, ideas, advice and/or a similar situation to share?

Sil

Okay, I've looked around the site and can't seem to find where I can make a complaint about a post. Who can I email?

TJ and others, if you have a question, comment, or suggestion, feel free to email us directly at urbanMamas@gmail.com. Thanks!

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